Must we Conform? a poem about fitting in

must we conform, make ourselves fit?


or mould ourselves slowly, bit by bit,
inch ourselves in, by stealth and by lie
not letting them see just how hard we try
to smile when they joke, cry when they fall,
reflect their emotions, jump at their call,
nod our agreement, frown our displeasure,
forget all our emptiness – life lived at half measure;


do we know what we miss?
what could make us be whole?
or does ignorance appease
the ache in the soul?

So often, much too often for many on the spectrum, the society we find ourselves in is elusive, illusive, just beyond our grasp. No matter how much we read, observe, question – there is still an invisible chasm a footstep away.

This poem explores the personal emptiness and uncertainty that trying to conform to an alien society can engender.

Whether we choose to buck the system, conform to it, or become invisible within it; whether it’s a temporary expedient, or a life-long commitment, we should own those life choices as a step towards being free.

Being creative is the mainstay of my life, and poetry, prose, and photography is where I express my deepest emotions. I also enjoy the challenge of design and create jewellery, fabric bags, and garments and home items in yarn. Diagnosed with ASD at the age of 68 after fifty years in and out of the mental health system, I now aim to explore and share my experiences over these years. Apart from blogs and short articles I'll share my life in my verse and images.

One thought on “Must we Conform? a poem about fitting in

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